Ego Keeps Us Stuck

I am reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. He talks a lot about the Ego. I wanted to discuss my thoughts on it. As I am going through my spiritual/personal journey. I recognize how powerful the ego is, and how it can keep us in a low vibrational state. When I meditate, and try to connect to a higher vibration. My thoughts(ego) keeps me from connecting to my higher self/guides. It tries to distract me. The ego=attachment. It keeps us attached to money, power, people, objects, thoughts, material things etc,. It can make us obsess over things, or people. 

The ego can help keep us grounded in reality. I do believe we should enjoy and live life. Enjoy the things within it, but we shouldn’t get over consumed by it. There needs to be a balance. It is our goal to keep it in check, but it can be a tough challenge, even for myself. I think about the time I was in the car, and I was going to turn, and this other car was turning too, we almost hit each other. My first thought was “I was in the right.” I instantly realized what my ego was trying to do, it really likes to be right. What does it matter who was right!? We can both be right or wrong, or one was right or wrong, it doesn’t matter, it happened, and we both came out safe. The ego can trick us like that, but awareness can set you free from the confines of it.

The Ego creates obsessions to people, things, money, social media to keep us from higher learning, and looking deep into ourselves. The ego likes to constantly be entertained or distracted. It is quite difficult to sit in silence. It likes to fill our minds with thoughts, most of the time thoughts that push us down, rather than lift us up.The ego likes to trap us in reality. Although it can keep us grounded, it can also keep us stuck from our personal/spiritual growth. 

Cycles

I continuously cycle from filling my days with distractions to being more mindful and spiritual. I recognize my obsessive patterns. The great thing about being aware is noticing these bad habits, after awhile.

Being on Twitter constantly does nothing for me, or watching random YouTube videos. Although it is fun to be distracted once in awhile. It is important to get back to yourself. Reminding myself if it doesn’t serve me, than it isn’t something I need. I am starting to focus the energy back on my self, rather than be entertained by others.

I will always cycle back and forth. Distractions, to mindfulness, to spirituality. I will say, I am always in a better place when I am more mindful and spiritual. I cling to obsessive patterns, but I learn to acknowledge them, and come back to reality.

Dive into Stillness

My days have been filled with distractions. Creativity and ideas has been blocked. Space and stillness is needed for new ideas to form. It is hard to sit still. Our ego wants to be entertained at all times, but we need to reduce the ego’s power. Get back to a place of peace, ideas and creativity. Ovrrstimulation does nothing for us.

Personal Growth

Is about learning about your shadow self. Looking at your flaws, and recognizing that it is part of you, and that is okay. We are a working progress. Trying to be perfect, or being perfect is impossible, but improving and being better is.

Growth is about facing fears. Part of growth is about challenging yourself and doing things you may not want to do, but may need to become more resilient and a better version of oneself. Awareness of your good and bad traits is important for our journey of growth.

We strive to reach higher heights. We are always searching for more. What is my life purpose? What more can I do? How much higher I can go? We are always on a journey to improvement. It is important to recognize your dark side. By doing this, it helps you confront your demons, and allows you to work on them We all have flaws. We all have room for improvement.

We shouldn’t be judgmental or critical of ourselves, and others for that matter. Remember everyone has room to grow. You are not alone. Life is a journey. Life is hard. We are here to learn, to improve, to face challenges, and grow.

Be kind, be compassionate, be gentle to oneself. Working on ourselves, and through our struggles is hard, but with baby steps you will see improvements. The first step is awareness, and you can move forward from there.

There are still things I am working on, and I will continue to try to improve these flaws, or bad habits. Remember, we can never be a perfect being. We are not here to be perfect. We can try to strive to be a better version of ourselves. If we fail, we keep trying. All you can do is try. The effort is what matters. Effort will lead to success in some form or other.

Set Intentions

Your thoughts manifest your reality. I heard that, and thought I should try making more positive/personal growth intentions for the day. I tried 3 for each day this week. I did succeed at being more positive, and making an intention to go to work with a more positive attitude. I have to say I felt much more happier at work this week, then any other week. The others didn’t work out so well, but that is part of being human. You will make mistakes. The important thing is not to dwell on it, and continue to move forward and set intentions. Another day is another chance to improve, and make your intentions become a reality. It is all about progress.

Although I don’t always follow the intentions I set. I am always aware when I fall off track the moment I do it, so it can help me stop the bad habit at the moment, and not allow it to consume the rest of my day. I say, ‘well I am not following my intention for the day, lets try again.’ And I leave that mishap in the past. Intentions are what you intend to do, but it won’t always be followed, as we are humans, and fall off our path. You become aware, learn, and move forward. It is a growing process.

Let Go of Control

We may be able to control some aspects of our lives, but mostly the universe takes most of the control. Life is unpredictable. Let go of the need to control everything. We can’t fix everything. We can’t change everything. Life is unfair. Bad things happen. Getting angry and upset does nothing for you. Put that energy in making positive changes for yourself and others. Let go a little bit. Life life. Enjoy the beauty it has to offer.

Having a plan for the day is great, setting an intention is also great. Expect the best, but leave room for changes. As someone who plans ahead, this can be hard, but I am also aware life is unpredictable, and things won’t always go according to plan. It helps alleviate the devastation of things not working out. Be prepared and be aware. Improvise and be creative, figure out ways to make the best of unpredictable situations.

Advice for the Week

Things may be overwhelming. You may be doing too much. There can be confusion, indecisiveness. Lack of boundaries. Lack of control. Focus and mental clarity is lost. There is Lack of clarity and honesty.

We can create storylines in our heads that distort reality. Step back, get focused, and seek truths. Take the steps to move forward, remember every little step counts. Try not to overwhelm yourself with too much.

There is a path to clarity. You just got to give yourself the space to see it. Take a break, breathe and gain some perspective.

Being hard on yourself, or getting upset at the situation won’t help. ‘Everything happens to you, not through you.’ The situation may suck, as life does at times, but remind yourself this will pass. Why me won’t help, but what can I do with this situation can.

It is all about finding that balance. Finding inner peace. Focus on what can bring you the inner peace you need to move forward. Find a way to step away, go out in nature, meditate, journal, or seek something/someone you enjoy.

A Need for Privacy

I think it is important to have some sort of privacy online and offline. We as humans love to feel heard, love to be validated. This is why social media can be addictive. We get a high from seeing the likes go up, but do people really need to know everything that we are doing? Do they really care? The answer is no. Remember what you post can be used against you. We should learn to keep most things to ourselves.

I had the urge to post something when I did something I thought was interesting, or when I bought something I liked. I took a step back, and thought, why do I need to post this? Why do people need to know, or care about what I did, or bought? I would tell myself I do it to connect, or because I just want to share my life, and yes it was a bit of that, but honestly, most of it was for some sort of validation. I wanted praise for what I did, but again why do I need that? It just isn’t necessary.

I also found it a hassle to take a picture to post, trying to find the right angle, or at times taking more than one photo, because the picture didn’t come out right. It can be such a waste of time. Why not just live in the moment, rather than wasting time with the hassle of a photo.

I will say connecting and expressing oneself is part of why we post, but when it comes to constantly posting, it can lead for a need of validation, or attention seeking. Why waste time posting when I can enjoy things for myself in the moment. Honestly we do a bit of oversharing. I did this my self. When I cleaned my room, or did my plant care. I would feel the need to post about that, which is so weird thinking about it. We just have this habit of sharing more than we need to. I don’t need to share this with strangers when I can share it with friends and family when I see them. I know at least they care about my life.

I recognized I did post for validation, because when I stopped caring. I stopped posting as much. I also felt it was important to keep my privacy. I want to do things for myself. I find my life very interesting. I do fun things to past the time. I am busy doing my own thing, and enjoying my own company, and others company to care what majority of people think about my life, because in reality they don’t really care, and they shouldn’t. The focus should be on us as individuals first, and our loved ones. Our focus should be on our self-growth, creativity, skill improvement, and having fun in real life.

I am not saying never post. I am just saying be more selective. Have a bit of mystery. It isn’t a good look to constantly posts about oneself, it screams attention seeker. I just think our lives should not be stopped by constantly having the urge to post something. Rather than telling others about your life, just learn to live it. I think you will feel a sense of freedom and peace.