The present moment is always full of possibilities. Anything can happen in the present moment. Anything can get done in the present moment. The time is now. The past is already done, the future is not here. Find joy in the moment as much as possible. Sit with the present moment, accept what is in front of you now. If you are thinking of the past or future. You will struggle to enjoy the moment you are in now. It may be hard at times, like when you are working, but from my experience, anticipating leaving just makes the day drag on. Find little joys in the moment. You are only living in the present. Life is full of present moments. That s when you are most alive.
Tag: #positive psychology
Self-pity is an emotion in which one feels self-centered sorrow and pity toward the self in regards to one’s own internal and external experiences of suffering.
Self-pity can be completely internalized whereby you view it as part of your identity to be continually unfortunate, incapable and sad.
When self-pity is made into a habit, it not only stunts our self-worth, but it also creates self-destructive cycles of self-sabotage.
I found myself spiraling into a space of negativity today. I am mentally exhausted, and I have to work 12 hours today. It made me think of self -pity, and how I am doing it to myself at the moment. I don’t like it. I do not like feeling sorry for myself, it does me no good, so I decided to switch the script.
As a believer, that you create your reality, or that one can shift their brain’s focus. I did not want to focus on negativity. I decided to work on my positive affirmations. Telling myself, “You got this.” “You are strong!” “You are not tired.” I am tricking my brain to focus on the more positive aspects, or to look into my strengths.
Instead of telling myself, “it will be a long day, it will be rough.” I am telling myself, “Today will go by fast, it won’t be that bad.” I just don’t want to go into the loop of negativity, it just makes things worse. The only way I can get through it better is to lift myself up, instead of pitying myself. I could be in a much worse situation. I know a lot of people don’t like hearing that, but that is the Ego talking. It likes to be self-centered. Believe me things could be worse. If you think of how things could be worse this also help alleviate your sadness or need for self-pity. We are strong and resilient creatures.
We have gone through lots of trials in our lives. I have seen worse days, and I will most likely see worse days after this. This change of perspective has really helped lift my spirits up. This shows that you really do create your reality. This situation is there, but how you perceive it is what matters. This situation also helped inspire me to write something, since I have been trying to figure out what to write next, but my brain has been foggy, but this all just hit me, and I felt an urge to write about it, and share this message with you. There is always a light at the end of a tunnel if you are willing to go through it.
A positive affirmation is a statement that reflects a positive, empowering, and uplifting belief or attitude about oneself, others, or the world. Positive affirmations can be simple, short, and specific, such as “I am confident and capable,” or they can be more detailed and personalized, such as “I trust in my abilities and am worthy of success.”(Berkelywellbeing.com).
Others are “I am beautiful/handsome. People love me, why wouldn’t they!?” Know your worth and value. “There are awesome traits about me, why wouldn’t people like that? and if they don’t, that is their loss, not mine. They are missing out. They don’t realize my amazingness.” This is different from being conceited, you are not above others, but it is a reminder, they are not above you either. We are all equal.
I have been doing this, and it has changed my perspective on things. It has made work so much more bearable and has made me more happy and joyful towards others. I don’t come into work with my head down, dreading the day. I believe it will be a great day. I tell myself I will have fun; time will go by fast. That my coworkers are a joy to be around. This has helped the work week go by much smoother and quicker.
Now this is different from toxic positivity. Crap will happen, things at work will suck, there are struggles, but if you keep telling yourself. ‘I got this, I am strong, I am killing it,’ through those down times, it helps you push through. It will allow you to deal with crap much more easily. There were times I would get upset when I was overwhelmed with work, now I think, ‘man I have a lot to do, but hey, this keeps me busy, and I am awesome, I will get this done in no time, or it will get done, I got this.’ Man, does this work wonders for me, and it can work for you.
Now that I see my coworkers more positively. I am more open to talk to them, and joke with them. I see more positive sides to them. I am actually more helpful, and work more as a team as well. When you build a wall, or tell yourself you are a loner, it just distances yourself from others, because you train your brain to believe it, but once I told myself, I enjoy my coworkers, I like them, they are fun. This allowed me to open myself up to them, and this broke the wall I had, and allowed us to connect more easily. When you believe, you act it out. This creates a ripple effect in your world to a more positive reality. When you emphasize the positive, you will see more of the positives, and vice versa, if you emphasize the negative, you will focus more on the negatives.
When I would go into work dreading it, thinking about wanting to go home, it just made the day worse, and the time dragged on. Now I say, ‘I like working, I would just be bored at home, here I get my exercise, I would be just sitting at home.’ This helps me enjoy the good aspects of work, rather than focusing on the number of reasons why I shouldn’t be there. ‘I am making money here. I won’t if I am at home.’ You train your brain what to focus on. Affirm, and you will receive.
We are all on our own journey in life. We are all powerful. We all have special gifts to share. Focus on your journey, less on others, less on comparisons. Your time will come if it is what you really want. Everyone’s path is different, no one is the same. You create the reality you want. Focus on you. Focus on your power. You are all the validation you need, once you validate yourself, others will follow. Lift yourself up, and others will follow. Your path is your alone, of course others will join you, but you should learn to lead it yourself. Be inspired by others but live your life for yourself. Your experiences are your alone. Recognize your power.
Mindful Post 2/27
Being in the moment brings inner peace and comfort. Let go of some of the busyness that keeps you trapped. Let go of the past and future for a moment. Just be. Let thoughts flow. Let emotions come and go. As I am immersing myself in the present moment this morning. I feel quite at peace and free. I am just enjoying what is happening right now. I hope you all have a peaceful mindful day.
Thoughts are Fluid.
Now that I have the ability to channel messages. I am aware of how many thoughts and opinions are out there. Thoughts are always changing. This is how we grow. Clinging to old thought patterns keeps you stuck.
Your thoughts change with how it fits you ate the moment. I started this year not wanting to buy certain things. That opinion has changed recently. Now I can hold on to that opinion, because the Ego part of our minds wants to be right, it doesn’t like change, but our soul, our personal growth comes from change in thought, and our habits. I let go of the old thoughts I had, and shifted towards this new opinion, or belief.
It will continue to change and shift. There is always new information to consume. You are always changing, or you should. I allow new information, ideas and beliefs to consume me. It is about how relevant the information is to you now, not how it was in the past. What I think now, may be different in a couple of months, but that is okay, that is how we grow.
You shouldn’t feel guilt or shame for changing your stance on something. You should feel freedom, the fact that you moved towards a new direction, a new idea. Don’t get stuck in the past. Life is about now. What you think at the moment. What you do at the moment.
Don’t let the Ego part of your mind’s keep you stuck in old thought patterns. New ideas, and information are always there for you if you let it. Let down your guard and let new information flow through you.
If I stayed rigid in my old thought patterns. I would have been unsatisfied. Thoughts do not define me, or you, they are just thoughts, so let them go when it is needed, when it does not benefit you anymore. You will be doing yourself a disservice if you do not allow the flow of new thoughts to come to you. Push the Ego aside, this is what your soul can benefit from.
Mindful Message 2/17
The situation is what it is, but how one approaches it makes all the difference. You can allow the situation to consume you, or you can find little joys within the situation. Find some blessings, or things to appreciate. As I have to work this weekend, it is easy to feel frustrated, annoyed, and angry. I am annoyed a bit, but trying my best to stay positive, and count my blessings. This will pass, life throws you challenges. It is all about how one handle’s the challenges that come your way. We should remind ourselves; things/situations in life don’t always go how we want. We work through it, count our blessings, and move forward. It can be hard not to get stuck in a bad situation, we are human after all, but allowing the situation to put us in a dark space doesn’t necessarily benefit us. We must try to seek joy, the good, the blessings within the storm. This can help bring peace to one’s life.
Journaling is a powerful tool, why is it? It can make you aware of your thoughts. Seeing your thoughts on paper gives you clarity. It can also be therapeutic, and help you through times of difficulty. I was upset about a certain situation, so I decided to journal, after doing so I felt so much better. It is like I put my thoughts and feelings out there, and released it on paper somehow. Like once I put it on paper it is released out into it, and it is no longer bottled inside of me. That is how I feel. I feel a sense of relief after I journal. Also just seeing your thoughts, allows you to look at it from an outside perspective, which makes it easier to gain clarity on the situation. We all have a portal to the universal knowledge of the world, so journaling can help you gain knowledge about yourself, your life path, and help you get answers to whatever difficulties, problems, or struggles one may have. I sometimes lose track of journaling, but when I do, I realize how powerful it can be.
Create Moments/Experience Life
I revisited this old post I made of Create Moments/engage with the world. Today I do not feel like going to this concert. It will be very cold, and I just want to stay in my warm home. But as I reflected on it, I felt it was important for me to go, and create a moment/make an experience.
Mundane days and normal routine days are not memorable, there aren’t lessons learned. There is no room to grow. But getting out of your comfort zone and experiencing life is what sticks to your memory. Going to the concert and spending time with loved ones is a great experience. It is something fun to look back on. The cold weather is unfortunate, but I can bare through it. Being a bit uncomfortable is part of life, and we should walk into it, rather than avoid it. We should step outside the confines of our normal lives and live a little.
If I try to look back on my daily work week routine. I won’t remember much. Although comfort is nice. It is a bit boring and forgettable. These moments outside your normal routine are what sticks. I like to look back at more moments that stick. Monday through Thursday will be days I will forget, but this Friday will be a day to remember. What will happen? An adventure, a challenge, a fun experience? Who knows, but it will be an experience. It is cold, and I like to make any excuse to stay home, but I won’t. I like to live and experience life.
Mindful Time/Mind Cleansing
I just sit here, listening to the rain sounds, looking outside the window, the barren trees, the birds flying, the cloudy skies. I look at my plants surrounding my space. I take deep breaths. I am immersing myself in the moment. There is a sense of appreciation. I have risen another day.
The morning time is my absolute favorite time of the day, for others it is the afternoon or evening, but for me I thrive in the morning, this is when my mind is the most active and alive. This is the easiest time for me to be mindful and present.
I use the first couple hours of my day, after I wake up to be present and mindful. I tend to my plants, I do yoga, I meditate, I pull some tarot & oracle cards for myself, and then I read. This allows my mind to cleanse. This brings me peace. This allows me to find peace, before the business of the day consumes me.
I try not to fill my mind with negativity and nonsense as I wake up. I allow my own thoughts and opinions to have a say first. I don’t want to be clouded by the outside world just yet. Giving myself a little me time. Putting the focus on myself first. We should all try to have a bit of me time throughout the day, if you can, especially when your mind is the most active. This sets my day up very well. Have a mindful day everyone, much love.