Mistakes happen in life, try not to let guilt or regret consume oneself. We are all in the process of learning and growing. We live and we learn. Be kind to yourself, don’t push yourself too hard. Just do the best you can. No one is perfect.
I recently experience a difficult situation. I have thankfully moved past it, but at the time it was hard. After the experience, I really wanted to make something out of it, and learn from it. I think it is a wasted opportunity to not make changes, or make improvements when life hands you a challenge. Challenges are lessons to be learned.
I had to rearrange a lot of my stuff, because they had to fix our carpet. I realized I had too much stuff. This situation taught me things can easily be lost, or damage, so I decided I need to rid myself of things I had too much of. I have now decided to put a couple of things on my no buy list, this includes, clothes, books, tarot/oracle cards and notebooks. It made take a more minimalistic approach to things. Collecting too many things is too much when it can easily be lost. Attachment does create suffering. I was stressed about all the things I could lose, but if I lessen all the things I have, the next time won’t be as stressful.
I think it is nice having less things. I can go through my clothes with so much more ease. It has pushed me to finally go to the library and rummage through all the collections of books they have there. This situation has given me an appreciation for what I have now. It also showed not to spend too much on things, but rather on experiences.
During the time I was away from home, while they were working on my house I came to this conclusion. I need to switch my mindset to how to take on this challenge? What can I do to improve my living situation? This is a test the universe and maybe my soul has given me. I see there being 4 stages. Resistance, depression, acceptance, then resilience, then learning. Take something out of a difficult situation, make something positive out of it. I am now in a better place, and I am much stronger for going through what I went through. The experience does suck, but the aftermath can benefit you in many ways.
Is about learning about your shadow self. Looking at your flaws, and recognizing that it is part of you, and that is okay. We are a working progress. Trying to be perfect, or being perfect is impossible, but improving and being better is.
Growth is about facing fears. Part of growth is about challenging yourself and doing things you may not want to do, but may need to become more resilient and a better version of oneself. Awareness of your good and bad traits is important for our journey of growth.
We strive to reach higher heights. We are always searching for more. What is my life purpose? What more can I do? How much higher I can go? We are always on a journey to improvement. It is important to recognize your dark side. By doing this, it helps you confront your demons, and allows you to work on them We all have flaws. We all have room for improvement.
We shouldn’t be judgmental or critical of ourselves, and others for that matter. Remember everyone has room to grow. You are not alone. Life is a journey. Life is hard. We are here to learn, to improve, to face challenges, and grow.
Be kind, be compassionate, be gentle to oneself. Working on ourselves, and through our struggles is hard, but with baby steps you will see improvements. The first step is awareness, and you can move forward from there.
There are still things I am working on, and I will continue to try to improve these flaws, or bad habits. Remember, we can never be a perfect being. We are not here to be perfect. We can try to strive to be a better version of ourselves. If we fail, we keep trying. All you can do is try. The effort is what matters. Effort will lead to success in some form or other.
Your thoughts manifest your reality. I heard that, and thought I should try making more positive/personal growth intentions for the day. I tried 3 for each day this week. I did succeed at being more positive, and making an intention to go to work with a more positive attitude. I have to say I felt much more happier at work this week, then any other week. The others didn’t work out so well, but that is part of being human. You will make mistakes. The important thing is not to dwell on it, and continue to move forward and set intentions. Another day is another chance to improve, and make your intentions become a reality. It is all about progress.
Although I don’t always follow the intentions I set. I am always aware when I fall off track the moment I do it, so it can help me stop the bad habit at the moment, and not allow it to consume the rest of my day. I say, ‘well I am not following my intention for the day, lets try again.’ And I leave that mishap in the past. Intentions are what you intend to do, but it won’t always be followed, as we are humans, and fall off our path. You become aware, learn, and move forward. It is a growing process.
We may be able to control some aspects of our lives, but mostly the universe takes most of the control. Life is unpredictable. Let go of the need to control everything. We can’t fix everything. We can’t change everything. Life is unfair. Bad things happen. Getting angry and upset does nothing for you. Put that energy in making positive changes for yourself and others. Let go a little bit. Life life. Enjoy the beauty it has to offer.
Having a plan for the day is great, setting an intention is also great. Expect the best, but leave room for changes. As someone who plans ahead, this can be hard, but I am also aware life is unpredictable, and things won’t always go according to plan. It helps alleviate the devastation of things not working out. Be prepared and be aware. Improvise and be creative, figure out ways to make the best of unpredictable situations.
I really liked this passage in my Mindful Journal. I distanced myself from mindful practices for a bit, but I am starting to tune myself back to the moment more.
I never thought of being mindless or distracted as ‘being asleep.’ But I can see it. Being present is truly being awake. You awaken your senses, your mind, your creativity, your inner peace and more.
I would like you all to read this passage, and answer the questions for yourself. This can make you more aware of your own mindful practices, and what can keep you in tuned with it. Let’s bring us back to being awakened and alive.
A new year has arrived! Time to refresh ourselves. It is time to get back to business. Back to our goals. The holidays are a busy time. We can easily get distracted, during these times, not saying it is a bad thing though. December is the time to spend time with love ones, have fun, and relax.
The new year brings a fresh start. I don’t necessarily believe a new year brings a new you, but it can be a fresh start to get back on track. If it is to get healthier, work or goals/projects, or make changes.
With the holidays, and mostly being sick all month. I lacked motivation to do anything productive, but that is okay. The new year is about making fresh starts, or restarting the things you were working on.
We can appreciate what we done last year. We got through the ups and downs. We learned important lesson throughout the year. The new year is about hope, mystery, discovery, and new challenges.
Use this time to focus on what is important to you, and allocate your time to those things. I decided to make a list of things that are important to me, so I can make sure I make time to work on those things, or make time to do those things in the new year.
I seen a lot of people say “I hope only good things happen in the new year,” or “this year will be your best.” I am not a big fan of these statements. Challenges will happen, it is reality. You set yourself up for misery with these unrealistic statements. You never know how the year will go. Just take it day by day. You can hope for the best, but that is all you can do. Just remember everything may not go your way, but you can always put in the effort to try to make it a good year. Focus on what you can control. Your efforts make things happen.
As we look to others for guidance on self-care, motivational tips, or self help tips. It is important to know looking within ourselves and experiencing things for ourselves will be the major factor in helping oneself achieve their goals, find peace of mind and evolve as an individual. We can consume as much self-help content as we like, but our own journey is what really teach us the lessons we need to learn in life.
I consume many self-help vlogs, podcasts and books for inspiration and creativity. I do find I learn the best from my own experiences through trial and error by finding ways that work best for me. Taking action is how I learn and evolve. Consuming can only get you so far.
We are all different individuals, so there isn’t one size fits all self-care tips. What works for one individual, may not work for another. This is a continues journey, so people’s opinions on things change as they continue through their journey. I know mine has. It is a natural process on our journey through life.
It is important not to follow guidance step by step, word for word, tip for tip. They are a guide, a footprint, a baseline. Take in what works for you. In the end, it is up to you to figure out ways that helps improve your well being. Also, majority of these things are recycled again and again, just worded differently through the perspective of the person giving out the advice.
Take others advice, including mine with a grain of salt. What works for them, may not work for you. Different environments, different personalities, different lifestyles affect what works for an individual. Take in what you can, and create elements that can work for you. All in all, the journey to improving your life starts with you, and your willingness to take actions. Others may help, but your work is what truly matters.
I am making more of an intention to engage with the world, rather than passively scroll online, or watch Youtube/Netflix. I want to create experiences, and be creative by actively living in the moment. I like to do things that help me learn and grow.
I have recently been trying to learn more Spanish and Korean. I have been listening to more Podcast. I have made the intention to color more. I have been doing lots of writing for my blogs, and for my course. I have also started making videos. I just want to make more time being active.
I like to live more intentionally and mindfully. Life is about creating moments. Finding little joys along the way. The more I practice living intentionally. The easier the habits become. Engaging means being creative, productive, working on your craft, and connecting with yourself, others and the world around you. I try to build my day around things that spark joy, creativity, growth and value.
I will say recently I haven’t been as mindful as the past couple of weeks, and I have been watching more Youtube and Netflix, but that is totally okay. We need balance. We will not 100% be productive, creative, or mindful all the time. Allow yourself to be passive without guilt. But there should always be an intention to create moments in anyway that suits you. You will be at ease, happier, and find more peace, and rewarding moments if you do so.
I have seen a lot of videos on how self-care is toxic, or creates narcissism. I truly believe the self-care they are discussing isn’t self-care in the truest sense. The self-care they are discussing is searching for happiness, and trying to be as successful as one can be, and striving to reach goals no matter what. Putting value in yourself, not others. I wouldn’t call that self care. It is more self-indulgence. I can see why that behavior can be toxic, and create narcissism. I think it is important for people to know what self-care is, so they don’t confuse it with toxic behaviors that create more misery.
“Self-care is anything you do to take care of yourself so you can stay physically, mentally, and emotionally well. Its benefits are better physical, mental, and emotional health and well-being. Research suggests self-care promotes positive health outcomes, such as fostering resilience, living longer, and becoming better equipped to manage stress.”(everydaymentalhralth.com).
Self-care is about making yourself a priority. It is about validation your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Although, you are a priority. It does not mean hurting others to benefit oneself, or putting others down to pull yourself up. You still make sacrifices and compromises, but you shouldn’t put others needs before oneself at all times. Your mental and physical health comes first. You can’t have that when you continuously sacrifice yourself for others.
Connections are important. Self-care isn’t about pushing others away, and just focusing on you. Solitude is important to center yourself to who you are, and to give you space to enjoy one’s company. We are social creatures that feed on connections from others. Connecting with others is a part of self-care, along with solitude. Treat yourself right, and you can treat others just as well.
Self-care isn’t about buying the most expensive thing to treat yourself. If it adds value, and brings joy than sure, do it, but it isn’t essential. It isn’t about reaching your goals, and striving for success. Yes, you can do these things, but it isn’t the only thing to focus on. It is about appreciating what you have, and enjoying the journey to get to where you want.
Self-care is about creating hobbies that spark joy and peace in your life. It is about cultivating habits that promote a healthier individual physically, emotionally and mentally. Self-care is about accepting who you are, your strengths and flaws. It isn’t about searching for perfection, but learning to appreciate your strengths, and to work on improving your weaknesses. Accepting comes into play when flaws can’t easily be improved.
People sometimes lose the meaning of self-care for their own self indulgence. Self-care is about finding ways to bring peace into your life. It is about working on yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. A holistic approach to become a better individual, and to live life as fully as one can. Learning to connect with yourself and others is the true nature of self-care.