We are taught nothing should go wrong. That life is safe and comfortable. That life should be a smooth ride. But this mindset creates problems. It doesn’t align with reality.
The truth is when one avoids the reality that things won’t always go the way you want, or when one attaches to impertinent things(people, objects, money, success etc…) it creates misery, sadness, and suffering. It is hard to avoid it, because humans need to attach, and feel safe.
This may sound counter intuitive, but to find peace of mind. We must learn to accept that life is imperfect, unstable, and unpredictable. Acceptance of the entropy of life ironically leads to less suffering and pain.
We are programmed to believe life can be perfect, life has to be good to us, we are owed things in life, but that point of view creates negativity. That is just not how life works. Our human brains can’t handle complexity, which is why humans love simplicity, but the problem is reality is never smooth, and perfect.
It isn’t ideal. No one wants disorder, but it is reality, and there is no avoiding it. Avoiding is something one should not do if they want to maintain happiness, and peace of mind. Face it, and accept the unpredictability. Once you are able to do so, difficult situations in life will be much easier to handle.
Waking up to negative thoughts is never a way one wants to start their day. There are two choices. Let the negative thoughts consume the body and mind, and have it ruin the rest of your day, or reframe, accept, and release the thoughts, and have a more joyful day.
Being mindful can help you become aware of these type of thoughts, and find ways to release them, so the negative thoughts will not get out of control. You can tell yourself that you will not let these thoughts get the best of you. The day will be a good day. Accept what is, and if you can not accept it, than a change must happen. In the end, you control your happiness.
You can also try a meditation practice where you take a breath in(inhale), think about the negative thought. Immerse yourself in the thoughts, along with the feelings, and reactions it creates. Then release(exhale) the negative thoughts out of the body. This can be a helpful practice in releasing negative energy from the mind and body.
In the end, try not to let negative thoughts win. It is about having the best day possible, no matter the circumstances. Your happiness, and peace of mind depends on it.
The ego will find a way to trap the mind in a bubble of negativity and misery. It is easy to fall into the trap. Awareness of our surroundings can help center us back to the moment. Always strive to be in the present. It is not an easy task, but it is very beneficial for our well-being, peace of mind, and sanity to try. Living life to the fullest is being present in the moment.