The present moment is always full of possibilities. Anything can happen in the present moment. Anything can get done in the present moment. The time is now. The past is already done, the future is not here. Find joy in the moment as much as possible. Sit with the present moment, accept what is in front of you now. If you are thinking of the past or future. You will struggle to enjoy the moment you are in now. It may be hard at times, like when you are working, but from my experience, anticipating leaving just makes the day drag on. Find little joys in the moment. You are only living in the present. Life is full of present moments. That s when you are most alive.
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Things That Cultivate Peace In Life
It is a stressful world out there, so it is important to find ways to bring peace into your life. Instead of increasing negative energy into your aura. Put that energy into cultivating positive energy. I will list a couple of things that have been helpful for me.
1.Let Go-This is a big one. Learning you cannot control others, or life situations is important for your peace of mind. Getting angry at how others behave won’t help you. Everyone does not think or act the same way, it is how it is. Move on and let go. It serves you no purpose to dwell on it.
2.Listen to calming music-There are plenty of Youtube videos on calming the mind, releasing negative energy, reducing anxiety etc,. The music can help put your mind at ease.
3.Journaling– One of my favorite things to do.It is nice to let your thoughts out. Venting can be therapeutic, but there isn’t always someone there to listen, so letting it out on paper can be helpful. It helps me bring peace to the situation. It also allows me to work through whatever struggles I have.
4.Do a hobby you enjoy-Immersing yourself in something you enjoy, and living in the moment. Allows one to forget the harsh realities of the world, or our struggles. You can just focus on the thing you enjoy. I get this sense when I do plant care, read, or color. I just live in the moment. Not focused on the time at all, or anything else really.
5.Go out in nature– I am sure this is mentioned a lot, but there is a reason for it. It is very refreshing and rejuvenating to be outdoors in nature. I have a sense of peace and energy after a walk outside.
6.Perspective taking- Learning to see things from another person’s perspective can help you live in peace. Your thoughts, ideals, values, or behaviors are different from most others. When you learn to understand others. You let go of judgment and criticism.
7. Deal with emotions-Allowing your emotions to be, rather than pushing them away, or fighting it can be helpful for your well being. Emotions are part of being human. Accept it for what it is, allow it to be, and it will eventually fade. Adding thoughts and storylines to the narrative will make it worse. You feel lonely, sad, angry, stressed, annoyed etc,. Feel it, let it be, move on. Peace will ensue.
8.Staying away from SNS– I just recently deleted Twitter. This has been wonderful for my peace of mind. I no longer have much need for validation, or have information overload. It allows me to just focus on myself and my thoughts.
You won’t be at peace 100 percent of the time, because that is unrealistic. These things help me be more at peace in general, not all the time. As long as you’re more at peace. That is what matters. Trying to bring more peace into your life is what matters. Just remember there will always be disturbances, it is how one grows and learns. It is part of our life journey.
I continuously cycle from filling my days with distractions to being more mindful and spiritual. I recognize my obsessive patterns. The great thing about being aware is noticing these bad habits, after awhile.
Being on Twitter constantly does nothing for me, or watching random YouTube videos. Although it is fun to be distracted once in awhile. It is important to get back to yourself. Reminding myself if it doesn’t serve me, than it isn’t something I need. I am starting to focus the energy back on my self, rather than be entertained by others.
I will always cycle back and forth. Distractions, to mindfulness, to spirituality. I will say, I am always in a better place when I am more mindful and spiritual. I cling to obsessive patterns, but I learn to acknowledge them, and come back to reality.
Advice for the Week
Things may be overwhelming. You may be doing too much. There can be confusion, indecisiveness. Lack of boundaries. Lack of control. Focus and mental clarity is lost. There is Lack of clarity and honesty.
We can create storylines in our heads that distort reality. Step back, get focused, and seek truths. Take the steps to move forward, remember every little step counts. Try not to overwhelm yourself with too much.
There is a path to clarity. You just got to give yourself the space to see it. Take a break, breathe and gain some perspective.
Being hard on yourself, or getting upset at the situation won’t help. ‘Everything happens to you, not through you.’ The situation may suck, as life does at times, but remind yourself this will pass. Why me won’t help, but what can I do with this situation can.
It is all about finding that balance. Finding inner peace. Focus on what can bring you the inner peace you need to move forward. Find a way to step away, go out in nature, meditate, journal, or seek something/someone you enjoy.
Overthinking is a problem we all face in life, so more than others. Overthinking keeps us a way from mindful living, and keeps us stuck in the past, or future. Overthinking can be a hindrance to our happiness, peace of mind and well-being. It cultivate feelings of anxiety, frustration, sadness and more. Why do we do it?
It is our brains way of trying to understand the world around us. Our minds wants to protect us, it wants control of a situation, so it goes into overdrive trying to find a solution. The problem is, it does the opposite. Our thoughts are our mind’s way of trying to understand what happened in the past, and what will happen in the future. Overthinking can hinder our ability to problem-solve and take action. This is why the saying ‘don’t think, just do,’ is so important. The more you think, the less you do.
You would think thinking more would allow you to resolve things, but it just makes you feel worse. You just go in circles. Your thoughts are stories. They are not reality. You are creating a movie in your head, but it won’t bring you clarity or peace. Overthinking stops you from problem-solving, it stops you from taking action, and it stops you from making decisions. This is why it is important to get out of your head, and be aware that these thoughts are stories of the mind.
Ways to combat overthinking:
- Challenge your thoughts-Question your thoughts, are these thoughts facts, is there evidence to back them up
- Reframe your thoughts-Put your thoughts in a more realistic, positive light.
- Double standard technique-This is talking to yourself in the same compassionate way you would a friend. If your friend was in your situation, what would you say? If it is true for them, why not you?
Clarity and peace of mind have come from using these practices and techniques. It helps calm your thoughts and brings relief. Thinking too much has never caused me peace of mind. It has only allowed me to lose sleep, creativity, productivity among other things.
Questions to ask yourself when overthinking:
Thoughts of the past: How would this help me now? What can I learn from this? Are these thoughts helping me at the moment?
Thoughts of the future: Am I really in danger? Would I die from this? Are these thoughts helping me at this moment?
The most important question to ask is how is this helping me right now? It is important to be aware of if these thoughts are helping, or hurting you. When you are aware, you have a better chance of combating your thoughts with helpful techniques to gain peace of mind and clarity.
My Mindful Week
I wanted to create this post to discuss the mindfulness practices I implemented this week. I will start with my self-care routine I have been doing before work. I usually tend to scroll online before work, but this week I decided to change this up. I really want to read more books this year, so I decided to use my time before work to do some reading. It really helps me spark up my imagination and creativity. It also inspires me for my daily life, and my work. I learn a lot from reading. Reading allows you to think as well. I get enjoyment from reading. It gives me the opportunity to be present with my full attention.
I also like writing in my journal, during this time as well. Getting my thoughts out on paper is very therapeutic. It also helps me problem-solve, and brings clarity to the situations in my life. This time has also allowed me to mediate more. I sometimes just sit on my bed, doing nothing, but listening to my thoughts flow. One day it was sunny out, and it was nice staring at my plants with the reflection of the sun. It was nice being in the moment staring at the beauty before me. It was really relaxing just sitting there.
Going back to my thoughts. I realize thoughts do affect your emotions. It is interesting when you are aware of your thoughts, and what they do to you physically and emotionally. I was feeling down, because my thoughts were on a situation that happened at work the day prior. I was overwhelmed with work, and I was tired of being overworked, so I let out my frustration at my bosses. The confrontation left me stress, exhausted, and frustrated. All these thoughts brought me down.
I did end up feeling better at the end of the day, because I realized I had power. I realized I was overworking myself. I was doing more than I can handle. I wasn’t forced to do all that. Being angry at my job for all the work won’t help me, but recognizing I have the power to reduce the amount of work I do is quite powerful. I decided to dial it down at work the next, and felt much relief from doing so. The job didn’t overwhelm me. My high expectations of myself did. I did too much. This distinction is so important for your piece of mind.
I feel a bit embarrassed that I let out my frustrations the way I did, but it had to be done. I could not continue to hold it in. I don’t regret it. Due to my talk with them. They were able to come to a solution that can help me out, which I liked, so sometimes you gotta let people know how you feel, so something gets done. You gotta do what is best for you. I am not saying to complain all day, everyday, but there are times when you got to express your discontent with a situation.
One last thing, I got this mindfulness book for Christmas. I absolutely love it. It has reminded me that I need to live moment by moment. We do one task, thinking about what to do next, then we go to that task, thinking what we should do next. We rush from one task to another. We forget to actually live in the moments. I became aware I do this a lot, especially when I do mundane everyday tasks, like brushing my teeth, or washing dishes. I am trying to live in moments. It can be hard, during those times, and when I am at work. I do realize that even though these tasks aren’t fun. They are still part of living, and I should put my attention to it when I am in the moment. It isn’t easy, but it can be done.
I was even doing this, while I was on a walk today. Focusing on what I will do after this walk. I realized what I was doing, and put my focus on the beauty around me. I told myself, ‘I am walking, I am looking at the trees and sky. I am listening to music.’ I did this, so my mind can be in the moment, rather than having thoughts of the future, or the past. It allowed me to enjoy my walk, even more. Life is about living moment to moment. The good, the bad, the boring, they are all part of living. You got to live in the moments to fully live.