Give Yourself Space

Give yourself space and time to get away from the information overload or the distractions of the world. I sit here viewing the scenery of my plants in my room. I am listening to the sounds of the rain playing, and the thunder outdoors. I am looking at the grey clouds outdoors. It is quite nice to just sit and breathe. Giving my thoughts the air to breathe. I find this very relaxing and therapeutic.

I enjoy writing my thoughts on paper and meditating as well. Tending to my plants can also give me the space to be in the moment, and let my mind be at peace. It is important not to get stuck in distractions and a busy lifestyle. Take time to be still, and be in the moment. Enjoying the scenery and sounds around you. Allowing your thoughts, and emotions to flow through you, and be heard and understood. Take care of yourself, and everything will fall into place.

Give yourself the space to understand oneself, and deal with emotions you may have. It isn’t easy to sit still, believe me I find it difficult, but a little discomfort is good for us. We should always try to get out of our comfort zone every once in awhile. Take on the challenge. It can only help us build into a stronger individual. Strive to take care of yourself, be appreciative, and be mindful.

Give yourself space to enjoy the beauty of the outdoors and nature as well. I wanted to post this beautiful shot of my favorite place to walk and be at peace.

Live With Discomfort

Although, we like comfort. It is important to learn to embrace discomfort. Use discomfort as a tool to learn and grow. Life would be boring if we didn’t have challenges and room to grow. Life involves changes. Sticking to the same routine cultivates stagnation. Go with the flow of life. Ride the waves. Let the storms come and go. Allow the sun to shine. I admit the anxious feeling isn’t enjoyable, but I do learn to embrace the feeling, because I know the experience will be beneficial to my growth. Living isn’t comfort. Creativity doesn’t come from comfort. There are things in life we will not enjoy. Discomfort is one of them. It does not mean it isn’t necessary in our lives. Pity, blame, anger, frustration, or sadness won’t help you. Accept what is, and this can help you move forward and learn. Attaching yourself to a perfect and comfortable life will lead you to pain and misery. Just remember, we all been through some crap, but we have gotten through it, and we will get through it again.

Oscillation of Mindfulness & Distractions

The continuous cycle, the back and forth. I catch myself entangled in the digital world once again. My bouts of mindfulness and distractions swing from one end to the other. Not much of inspiration or motivation going on at one moment, than the next I get back to immersing myself in my thoughts, meditate, and looking for inspiration and gaining knowledge. It is interesting. but not all that surprising. My mind needs rest, get distracted. My mind needs more fulfilling stimulation, lets get back to mindfulness. I don’t want to guilt myself for not being as mindful, as sharp, or as creative as I could be. I know I won’t be on my A game at all times. I won’t have the will to write all the times. I don’t always want to be mindful. I like distractions from time to time. It gives me the break I need. I know eventually I will get back on track. I always do. The road towards your goals and self-growth isn’t linear. There is some back and forth going on there. You get off the road, but you will get back on it. Getting back to it is what matters. I am now getting some of my juice back, after a week, or so. I continue to practice self-kindness and compassion when I catch myself moving towards distractions. It happens. I am human. Just enjoy, and you will get back to where you need to be. Remember, these distractions should not create harm to your mental health. It should help relax you. It should be enjoyable. If it does, please try to distance oneself, and look for more enjoyable distractions. I will end this here. I just wanted to put it out there that it isn’t easy being mindful all the times, and that it isn’t wrong to find distractions to help stimulate your mind at times. Balance is key.

What Brings Me Happiness

We should all figure out the things that spark happiness in our lives. I learned what truly sparks my happiness when I had to spend a weekend alone indoors at home. I couldn’t go out, or meet up with friends, which made me feel down and lonely. It showed me that being outdoors and connecting with friends are two things that spark my happiness. I decided that if the next had nice weather. I would make an effort to be outdoors and meet up with friends.

It is important to be proactive and take action to bring happiness in to your life. No wallowing in self-pity, thinking about how life sucks, or how lonely I am. Taking action, and doing what needs to be done is how I can help myself. I like you to search for what makes you happy, and implement them in to your life as much as you can. Don’t think. Don’t wish. Just do! After you read this I like you to think of the things that bring happiness to your life. Try to focus your energy on incorporating these things into your life.

My list:

  • Connecting with friends/family
  • Going outdoors in nature
  • Taking care of plants
  • Mindful breaks
  • Meditation
  • Writing
  • Reading
  • Listening to music/dancing


What is it? It is taking action despite your feelings/desires/motivation. It is about focusing on the long term, rather than the short-term. You can’t always wait, until you feel like doing something. We rather do what is easy and comfortable, but that isn’t always the best for us.

Self-discipline is about diving into the uncomfortable, and doing things that can be considered difficult to oneself, but recognize it must be done to help you grow, and achieve your goals. To be able to reach the goals you like, self-discipline is an important factor. Procrastination, unhealthy habits, indulging in distractions are all due to lack of self-discipline. Now we all lack self-discipline from time to time, so don’t be hard on yourself, some more than others, but learning to build more self-discipline can go a long way in helping you be the person you want to be, and achieve what you want to achieve. To be mentally, physically and emotionally at your best. So how exactly does one gain self-discipline? There are a couple of factors I like to explain that can be helpful in gaining self-discipline.

  • Get uncomfortable-As I mentioned, you have to learn to live with some discomfort to move forward, to push through, and get where you want to be. Comfort can keep you stagnant. We as humans like to remain as comfortable as possible, but it doesn’t always have a positive effect on us to do so. Getting uncomfortable once in a while can be beneficial to our development and creativity.
  • Take action-As I mentioned above, you can’t always wait for motivation to strike. You won’t always be motivated. You got to just do it. No thinking, just do. No feelings, just do. Action goes a long way. I did not feel like writing this morning, but I still did it, because I know it is better for me mentally to write.
  • Be Aware-Learning to become cognizant of your unhealthy, or unwanted habits can help you focus your energy on steering away from these habits. When you are aware of what you should not be doing, or you are aware that this habit makes you feel worse and doesn’t benefit you. It makes it easier to make changes. Most bad habits are done mindlessly. Being more mindful can help you build better habits, and become more disciplined. When I am mindful of when I am wasting time by scrolling. I learn to shut it off, and do something more productive/beneficial for my mindset.
  • Meditate-Man, does this help build your discipline. I think this is better than anything. It is the hardest thing for me to do. Staying still is just so hard for us to do. We like keeping busy. If you are able to sit still for 10-20 minutes, take deep breaths, and allow your thoughts to flow. This can help build discipline in other areas in your life. Doing this helps me gain clarity, and to become focused on what needs to be done.
  • Replace habits-Learn to swap unhealthy habits to healthier habits. Rather than scrolling, or watching TV, use that time to read, or create something, or take a walk. Rather than eating cookies, chips or cake, swap for a healthier snack, like fruits or nuts. Rather than sitting down and watching TV to defeat boredom. Get some music on and dance to get you moving, and get some exercise. Not easy to implement, but can be done. It is best to switch to healthy habits you enjoy, so it is easier to make the transition. I was bored and lazy yesterday. I spent most of my day scrolling and watching TV, but I decided to switch it up, and be a bit more active, so I got some music and danced. It felt good to move. It gave me more energy. It made me happier. Switching from just laying down, doing nothing, to moving and dancing, and listening to some upbeat music can make a difference in your mood, and it helped benefit my mental and physical state. I realize I should do this more often when feeling bored. It is important to switch things up, and to not stick to the same habits, especially if they don’t benefit you physically and mentally. Pushing yourself to make some changes can help build discipline.

I will say having a lazy day is perfectly normal and totally okay. Sometimes you want to get out of your head and indulge in something. Sometimes you want to rest and chill. Sometimes you want food that isn’t the healthiest for you. That is okay. We just want to limit the amount of times we do these things, so we can improve mentally and physically.

  • Understand long-term gains, rather than short term pains-Focus your energy on what you will get out of something in the end, rather than the discomfort you will feel in the short-term. This is probably one of the biggest reasons I push through the discomfort. The short-term pains/discomfort will be gone, but if you let it linger, it will create guilt, shame, bitterness, stagnation, sadness, among other things. I know if I don’t write. I will feel unaccomplished. I know if I don’t get exercise or movement. I will feel incomplete. I know if I don’t eat my required nutrient intake. I am not giving my body the fuel it needs to thrive. All this keeps me on track. I focus on the long-term benefits, not short-term.
  • Believe in yourself-This may be hard for some of you, but if you talk down to yourself, have no confidence in yourself. You are what you believe. If you think you are a failure, you will be one, brutal, but true. The reason is, if you believe that, you will most likely not try. If you believe you can make change, then you will work to make it happen. Be kind to yourself, trust yourself, and you can go a long way to achieving what you like to achieve. You can’t go far beating yourself up.

I am sure there are plenty of other ways to build self-discipline, but I’ll leave it with these. I find these really help keep me in check. I hope they help you in some way as well, or they do help you in some way. We want to aim to grow, become healthier, and more content and at peace. Self-discipline can help us on that journey.

Life Of Uncertainty

I had an idea of what m Sunday was going to be. I was excited to go the park, sit on a blanket under a tree, and relax with my books, and connect with a friend, but things did not turn out the way I planned. That is the thing about life. You can’t predict the future, or expect things to go the way you thought.

My car didn’t start on the way over there, so had to use my friends car to get to the park. Once we were there. I was still a bit upset about my car, so my excitement died down a bit. The lot where I wanted to go was full, so we had to go to a spot I didn’t like as much. We were also surrounded by cicada’s, and the noise was a bit distracting. We also couldn’t sit under a tree, so we had to stay under the sun, which was unpleasant. We were there for about 30 minutes, so the day didn’t go at all how I planned.

I could have called it a day, said the day was shot, and be miserable, but I recognized this is all part of life. Yes, I am a bit upset nothing went to plan, but not all is lost. I ended just hanging out on my friends porch, in the shade, and we ended up having a nice time. I got to read, listen to music, and connect with my friend. I realized being on her porch was pretty nice, and that we should do that again, instead of going to parks, and dealing with multiple bugs, and also having a bathroom.

So in the end, these bumps brought something new to my horizon. I was able to still enjoy my time, and find a new place to hang out. By the end of the day I felt much better. I was still a bit stressed about my car, but the stress wasn’t too strong. The thing is you will always feel the emotion, but acceptance of uncertainty will lesson the severity.

The day did not go how I planned it, but sometimes life doesn’t go the way you planned. What you envision for the future is not reality. Once reality hits. You got to be able to handle what life has to offer, good or bad, because life isn’t smooth or perfect. And in the end, you may find a silver lining like I did, something good can come out of all of it. I found a new spot to hang out, and I found some good writing material.


Regret is a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done. It is hard to live mindfully and peacefully when we have regrets. Regret can be helpful when you are able to learn from it, so that it can help shape your future actions. If you continue to live in the past, and ruminate over what went wrong, rather than trying to figure out how it can help you today, then that is when it can be a problem.

I don’t really like having regrets, and I don’t have any at the moment. Regret is living in the past, and not really coming to acceptance of what happened. Regret steers me away from being mindful and present, so I try not to focus on what went wrong, or didn’t go as well as I liked to. Ruminating over doesn’t help me. Learning and growing from it does.

Life isn’t perfect. Mistakes will happen. Life doesn’t always go the way you planned. What you thought was the right choice back then, may not see like it now. It is easier to judge in retrospect. There may be aspects of my life that didn’t go the way I wanted. I may have made choices that weren’t great, but there are aspects that are good learning experiences. A choice can either be good for you at the moment, or teach you a lesson for the future. There is no place for regret. We don’t know everything. Experience helps us learn.

You live. You learn. At that point in your life you thought it was the right decision. We grow. We change. Regret shows that you had a learning experience. Try not to wallow in self-pity or blame. You are here now. You can always make better choices in the present moment. Don’t allow your past to hold you hostage. Set yourself free by being present. Accept the past. Appreciate your ability to learn and evolve. Use regret as a tool to learn and gain strength. Not as a tool to punish yourself.

Just remember, people regret they didn’t do, rather than the things they did do. Life is an experience. There will be bumps, mistakes and failures. That shows you are truly living.

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Habits That Keep Me At Peace In A Digital World

Being on social media can have its drawbacks. It can create anxiety, frustration, and depression. It is easy to fall into the negativity trap when you immerse yourself into that world. I have been able to stay on social media and still have a peaceful mind and soul. How? I like to discuss the reasons that helped me stay sane and at peace. Some people detox, which is great for them, but I don’t necessarily feel the need, since it doesn’t negatively impact my life. These habits have made it easier to live peacefully without allowing social media to destroy my peace, or should I say. I haven’t allowed social media to destroy my positivity and peace.

  • Awareness-When it comes to mindfulness. Awareness is very important. This is also the case for my social media use. When I recognize that I am being wasteful, or I am starting to feel any uncomfortable emotions. I shut it off. When I start to feel negativity creep in. I take a step back, recognize where I am going, and revert back to where I want to be. I tell myself none of this is that serious, it is just social media, and I move forward. Being able to be aware of where my thoughts and emotions are going. Helps me pull away from negativity, and push toward a more positive and peaceful mindset.
  • Don’t engage in negativity-People can say some hurtful things on social media. It is easy to engage and react. There are times I start typing something, but then I become aware of what I am doing, delete it, and move on. I try to ignore negativity on social media. I rather engage in positive things. I rather use it to fangirl over my favorite kpop groups, look at pictures of nature and plants, read inspirational quotes, watch inspirational or funny videos. When you put your energy into the positive aspects. You don’t have much time for the negative aspects.
  • Acceptance-This is another big point of mindfulness, and a huge way of keeping yourself at peace. There will be comments that upset and frustrate you. The news can be depressing. I follow lots of news on SNS. Not everyone has the same set of values as I do. Not everyone has the same opinions as I do, I recognize this. There are some depressing things that show up on my timeline, but as I recognize there is bad things in this world. There are also good things, and plenty of things to appreciate. Life sucks, but life is also good. I feel bad for the people suffering in this world, but getting depressed doesn’t help them. I can’t help them much. I will just focus on the things I can help, which is my happiness, and helping others seek happiness and peace. The world is filled with good and bad things. That is part of life. Accepting this can help you navigate the digital world much better.
  • Objectivity-Do not take things personally! Majority of the people on social media are strangers. Their opinion should not have much affect on you. Everyone has different perspectives. Social media is not about being the moral police. I am not perfect, so I will not judge others for their words. Bullying others to fall in line does not make you a happier person. I may disagree with others, and their opinions may be hurtful to others, but that is their opinion. Most of the time I can’t change it, so I rather just keep moving. I recognize we are all different, and have a different set of values. Once you recognize this it will be easier to navigate social media without feeling anger, resentment and frustration.
  • Seeing the grey-Recognize not everything is black and white, all or nothing, right or wrong. Look at understanding other perspectives. My opinion may be right, but for another opinion it can be right to. Open yourself up to other opinions. You may be surprised that you agree a bit with them. Another opinion from myself doesn’t equate to a wrong opinion, it is just different. Opening yourself up to different opinions makes things easier, and also a learning experience. It makes you more understanding and compassionate, which will make you a more relaxed and happier individual.
  • No need for validation-I try not to use social media for validation. It is nice to get noticed, but I normally just use it to express myself, that’s it. There is so much freedom in recognizing you don’t need others approval to create a post. I honestly love not having a lot of eyes on me. It is easier to post what I want, and not feel any pressure.
  • Step away- It is important that you don’t use these platforms all the time. When it is getting too overwhelming. I shut it off. When I recognize I am just wasting time there and mindlessly scrolling. I get off. When I am out. I don’t use it. Social media is not my life. I do other things to occupy my life, which is important to staying at peace. Get out, read, be creative. There is so much more out there. Once I step away. I realize how unimportant things are on social media. The things that upset me don’t matter as much. Real life is more important. This brings me back to reality, and brings me back to a peaceful place.

All of these habits have made my social media experience much more easier to deal with. I very rarely feel any stress, or sadness from being online. Social media is a platform for people to express themselves. It isn’t my life, or your life. The real world is out there. Explore that more, rather than putting your attention on a virtual world. It isn’t that serious. I hope these habits were helpful, and that you learn to use social media with a more mindful heart. I hope you continue to find peace, happiness and love in your lives.

Habits That Keep Me At Peace

It can be easy be in a negative place in life right now. I choose to be in a more positive space. How I do this is by creating habits that help me stay in a more positive space. Negativity is all around us, but I and you should try to figure out ways to combat them by putting our energy into a more positive mindset. I like to discuss the things that keep me in a more happier and peaceful place. I think we should all create habits that help keep us in a peaceful place. There is enough negativity out there, lets bring in positive vibes and peace.

  • Appreciation-I like to focus my energy on the things I appreciate in life. I have enough things in my life that I appreciate. When I think about all the good things in my life. I feel a bigger sense of happiness. When I am down, and recognize there are things to appreciate in life. It helps me out of that funk much sooner. I have really made an effort lately to focus on the good, and it has helped me in a positive way.
  • Laughing-Being around people who make you laugh, joking, and having fun with others is very important for your overall happiness and well being. I enjoy having a good laugh with friends. It is important to have fun in life, and to not be too serious all the time. Have a good laugh with friends. Watching something funny. I am sure it can help you feel much better. It definitely helps me.
  • Connecting-Talking with loved ones(family/friends) can be very helpful for me. I feel a sense of joy after having a good talk, discussing my life and their lives, and about things in life in general. I learn something new when I am out with friends or family. I think having good chats with my friends or family helps keep me in a better place mentally. We are social creatures. It is important for us to connect.
  • Mindful time-Spending time away from distractions. Giving me space to let my thoughts free. Giving me space to be creative is important for my overall well-being and happiness. This time allows me to truly appreciate myself and the moment. It gives me the freedom to be me.
  • Choosing my emotional state-I can’t control my emotions, but I can control the duration of how long the emotion effects my overall state. I get upset, angry, frustrated, annoyed, sad, but I don’t allow these emotions to consume me for a long period of time. I prefer to focus my energy on the more uplifting emotions. Happiness, joy, appreciation, excitement, tranquility, calmness. These emotions are the ones I allow to stick with me for longer periods, keeping me in a better state of mind.
  • Being a plant mama-Having something to take care of brings me a sense of joy and fulfillment. I also enjoy having them around me. It makes me happy seeing all the plants thriving under my care, okay not all thrive, but majority of them. The fact that I have improved by a lot makes me proud. And I enjoy staring at them every once in awhile. It brings me peace.
  • Focusing on what I can control-Doing this really helps me a lot. I try to put my energy on the things I can control, because if I focus on the things I can’t, it tends to lead to frustration, anger and misery. There is nothing I can do about every situation. No reason to put myself in a negative space when I don’t have to. I find peace putting my energy on the things I can do.
  • Doing things I enjoy-Going out for walks, connecting with friends, eating out, going to the beach, doing yoga, reading, having a picnic. These are some of the things I love to do, so I make an effort to do these things when I can. Doing these things puts a big smile on my face, which makes life much more enjoyable and fun.

All of these habits make my life better, so I try to implement them in my life as much as possible. I think it is important to create habits that can help you live the best life you can live. Life is too short to be miserable, especially when you have plenty of things to be grateful for.

Low Motivation

I woke this morning with no will to write my usual Monday blog post. I don’t have much inspiration lately. I did have a post to write, but have no urge to write and post it. I have no excitement for it at the moment, so I just don’t want to force myself to post it. I never really post anything I am not excited to write and post. Now grant it, there are plenty of times I don’t feel like writing, but once I push myself I feel much better, and really get into writing, so I think it is important to push yourself eventually, instead of continuously pushing something off. I write because I like providing helpful tips, and spreading my knowledge about mindfulness and personal growth.

I don’t feel guilt or sadness, nor excitement or joy. I am just going through the motions. I am just allowing what I am feeling just to be. If you aren’t feeling motivated, excited, or inspired. That is perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong with that. Days like these happen.

I am just ready to get back to work. I just don’t want to be home. I want to be busy and productive. Was it the gloomy weather? Lack of being outdoors this weekend? Not sure. Although I like keeping a schedule, because it helps push me to get things done. I may not always feel like writing, but once I start writing I tend to enjoy the process. This is why you got to push yourself eventually. Starting is when the magic happens, The thought of starting is much worse, than actually doing what needs to be done.

I choose not to force things all the time. We should all choose not to do so. Be kind to yourself. When you have these days. Listen to your body and emotions. If you don’t have to do it, than don’t. You can have a day to relax. You can have a day where you lack productivity. Just remember to get back to where you need to, because eventually guilt, and your inner critic will come to straighten you up, because humans have this need to continue to progress in life. We like a challenge. We like doing things to better ourselves. Push yourself most of the time, but don’t force all the time. I will end this here. This wasn’t a specific topic. Just my personal story with a bit of helpful tips. Hopefully this resonates with you. Have a lovely week.