Accepting our failures, and mistakes are difficult for us humans to do. Although, it may be difficult. It is something we should try to accept. As I mentioned many times before, we must remember we are not perfect. Failures, mistakes, and struggles will happen. These things in life are unavoidable. It is best to learn to accept it, so we can learn to cope with it better when it happens.
We will make mistakes sometimes. We will fail sometimes. We will be wrong sometimes. This is hard for the ego to comprehend. The thing is, mistakes doesn’t mean we can’t learn from them. Struggles doesn’t mean we can’t grow from them. Failures doesn’t mean you can’t overcome them. These things doesn’t define your whole being. This is just one aspect of your life that didn’t go well. One failure doesn’t mean you are a complete failure. It happens, what you do with that situation is what matters. You can either let it defeat you, or challenge yourself to learn, and grow from it.
We call ourselves idiots, stupid, a failure when things don’t go our way. We say negative things about ourselves. Cultivating a negative image of ourselves with self-hate, blame, and shame. We don’t realize that it is all part of the human experience. We are not perfect, we don’t know everything, and we can’t do everything. It happens.
Learning to be kind to ourselves. Understanding that we are human, and that it is okay to fail and make mistakes. This mindset can create self-compassion and self-love. Failures and mistakes happen, but there is always growth, and learning that cultivate from those experiences. Growth is important for our well-being.
I made mistakes on my first week of work. It is completely normal for that to happen. Instead of being negative towards myself, and blaming myself for the mistakes. I told myself that I don’t know everything, and I am still learning how things work there. I learn from mistakes. We all learn from mistakes. Life is a learning process. This is what failures, mistakes, struggles do.
In a perfect world, we would always be right and successful, but that is not how the world works. We will make mistakes. We will fail. You just have to remind yourself that it is okay. You will learn. You will overcome. It is all part of being a human being. It is all part of life. We all got to go through it. Even successful people fail.
Try not saying things like,”I am stupid,” or “I am a failure,” or “I am not good enough.” You are defining yourself to to that one situation that can deter you from growing from it. Try saying things like,”I can overcome this,” or “I can learn from this,” or “I am human,” or “Perfection doesn’t exist.” This way it keeps your identity away from negativity, and makes you aware of reality. This can allow you to improve, and grow from those situations.
Psychology of Mindfulness 