This is a very important lesson to learn in life. It is important we learn to enjoy and make use of our time with ourselves. I write this post, because I had plans with friends this weekend, but it didn’t work out, due to them being busy with other things. I could get annoyed, angry, be bitter, place blame on myself or them, create negative thoughts of myself or them, or have self-pity. This can all create a world of loneliness and depression.
I did feel a tinge of loneliness and felt a bit down, but that is normal. Having these feelings are normal and okay, but what you do with it is what matters. I rather use it to fuel my creativity. It allowed me to write this post. Difficulties, adversity, and negative feelings can be helpful for my creativity. I come to learn to actually appreciate them, because they help me learn more about myself and how much growth I have had.
The time alone gave me time to reflect, read the book I wanted to finish, and do other things that I enjoy doing on my own. People have their lives. They can’t always be there when you need them. I would have liked the company of friends this weekend, but it did not happen, and I am totally fine with that. I can hope to meet up with them in the future. No resentment. No anger. No self-pity. No negativity. Just acceptance. Focusing on making my time alone enjoyable and productive.
We must remember the world doesn’t revolve around us. They have their lives. You have yours. You also won’t always be there for others when they need you, so we should accept the other way around. You can only truly depend on yourself. If you learn to work on yourself, and learn more about yourself. You can learn to embrace and enjoy your own company. Having connections is important, but these connections won’t always be available, so enjoying time with you is essential for your happiness and well-being.
Psychology of Mindfulness 